Beat Those Insecurities!

Insecurities We All Possess, But Can Beat!
By Gail Wahl

Walking into the room, my heart pounds. Averting all eye contact, I make my way to the back row for surely no one will desire to talk with me. I will remain alone and unnoticed, as if I am the only one in the room. When the meeting finishes I leave having gained nothing other than accomplishing the task of showing up. I leave empty.

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Does this describe an experience you may have encountered in your walk of life? I have allowed many experiences like this to occur in my life. I say allowed because that is exactly what I did. I chose to allow the experience to be negative instead of positive. When I realized that this was a choice I was freed from feeling alone and empty.

I have had many friends tell me I always appear so confident when I walk into a room and that I seem to know everyone. Well here is the truth about that. I’m not and I don’t! I experience the same fears and insecurities as everyone else.

The difference is, (most of the time) I choose not to let these fears and insecurities prevent me from experiencing the joys of life. I would much rather leave a room knowing I made others feel connected and noticed and in the process, receive much joy.

Recently, I was at a conference where I knew no-one. I had conversed with many via email, but never met any of them face to face. I found myself sitting at a big round table at dinner, looking into the faces of people I knew very little or nothing about. I had a choice. I could choose to keep my eyes on my food, speak only when spoken to and just endure the hour or two I was going to be with them.

Or, I could take a deep breath, look them in the eyes, ask questions about their life and make them feel noticed and valued. It didn’t matter if they asked me any questions. What mattered is that they walked out of that dinner feeling like they had a new friend and that someone cared. What did this cost me? Nothing. What did I gain? Confidence and joy that I had built someone else up.

Confidence comes from within. Confidence is not a respecter of beautiful or plain people. The plainest person can have all the confidence in the world and a person of outward beauty can be riddled with insecurities.

Our mind is a funny thing. It plays games with us. It likes to fill us with lies about who we are or are not and what kind of value we are to this world.

Let me tell you a little secret. You were fearfully and wonderfully made. God did not make any mistakes. You were created to be of value to this world, just as you are. Each one of us brings value to this world through our uniqueness. No one can fill your place in the world like you can.

So, the next time you are entering a situation where fear and anxiety begin to plague you, do the following:

1. Take a deep breath

2. Pull your shoulders back and keep your head up

3. Walk confidently to your destination

4. Look people in the eye

5. Greet others with a confident handshake (I prefer hugs)

6. Ask questions of others

7. Walk away knowing you made someone feel valued and noticed

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I take a deep breath, pull my shoulders back, keep my head up and walk into the room. I glance around at those in the room, making eye contact and giving people a smile that they may not have seen all day. I notice a woman sitting all alone and walk over to her. I ask if anyone is sitting next to her and after she looks at me with a startled gaze, I sit down. I introduce myself and after brief introductions we realize we have a few things in common.

Throughout the meeting we banter back and forth and as the evening closes we agree the evening has gone by much too fast. We have had an enjoyable evening, made a new friend and have someone new to wave to as we walk down the streets. We are both filled up with confidence, friendship and a sense of belonging.

Gail Wahl owns a successful home based business with Mia Bella Gourmet Candles. http://www.homewithsoy.com. Within three months of beginning her business her site was on the front page of the search engines and has remained there for over a year.

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